A podcast about what pleases us.


We want you to have better sex.

We have some hypotheses about how to make that happen, but first, we need to collect your stories. We want to hear about your hoe escapades, about that time you felt truly transcendent, about that lover that you'll never forget. We hope to get to the point where we can extract data from those stories, the way businesses do with customer sentiment, to help you build more pleasurable and authentic connections. 

Let's keep in touch.

We're just starting on this journey and want you to come along for the ride. Do we know what we're doing? Not really. But like all good sexual experiences, it starts with fumbling around and deciding what feels good. In the meantime, and to thank you, we've created a quick How To Infographic that will take shower sex to a new level. You're welcome. 



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    Sexiness is a state of mind; a comfortable state of being. It’s about loving yourself in your most unloveable moments.

    —Halle Berry—


    If you had asked me at 13 what I wanted to be, I would’ve said, “a madam.”

    I've always been interested in sex and in people with the audacity to demand delight in this world that worships sacrifice. After overcoming more than my fair share of sexual trauma and writing a book about sex organs and conflict resolution (Jointly Fit: How our sex organs reveal the secret to conflict resolution in marriage), I retreated from being a "sex worker" and into working for corporations who wanted to know how to guarantee satisfied, enthusiastic and loyal customers. 

    I found that everything that I knew about customer service and sentiment, change management, and business process excellence could, and arguably should, be applied to the most important "customers" we ever encounter...our spouses, lovers and partners.

    That is how Hoe&Tell was born. Well, from that and all the salacious convos that I have with my best friends. Now I can't wait for all of you to be my best friends...to hear your stories. Stories of how you met that lover and what you remember about the first time and beyond. 

    This should be fun. Follow us on Instagram. The podcast is coming soon.